英文原文
My interest in psychology stemmed from my seeking an answer to “Why am I the way I am”. I was questioning my identity, purpose, and searching for my true self when I got introduced to Transactional Analysis (TA). I was drawn to TA due to simplicity of concepts and their practical application in everyday life, sparking my interest to delve deeper, leading me to join TA 101. I felt TA could help me take actions to change behaviors that are no longer serving me. The TA concept that made a huge difference to me was ego states. My recognizing that, what I believed to be Adult was actually Parent or Child state, allowed me to decontaminate and step in more and more into Adult. In this answer I have showcased how I have strengthened my Adult ego state through a systematic process of decontamination, using my TA training. Berne defined an ego state phenomenologically as a coherent system of feelings related to a given subject, operationally as a coherent set of behavioral patterns, or pragmatically as a system of feelings which motivates a related set of behavioral patterns (Berne, 1961, p.17). “The Adult functions as that which seeks connection with current reality, the Parent appears in the likeness of parental figures, and the Child contains remnants from one’s childhood.” (F. Cornell,2016, p.4), I began to examine my thinking in stressful situations and search for contaminations. Berne (1961) defined contamination as: “Contamination is the standardized intrusion of a part of one ego state into another ego state.” Hay (1992) described the same as “material from the Parent or the Child “leaks” into the Adult ego state”. Contamination can be Parent-Adult contamination, where a person thinks of Parent opinion as an Adult fact (Prejudice). (Figure 1.1) In the case of a Child-Adult contamination (Figure 1.2), fearful past experiences are used to act in the here and now (Delusion). In double contamination (Figure 1.3), a person replays parental messages and agrees to them with child belief and confuse both as realities. The view on reality is distorted because content from both Parent and Child are seen as representing the truth. I realized that I have double contaminations in dealing with money and finances related areas. When I was switching my job, I felt discomfort while negotiating salary and settled for a lesser hike. I see similar patterns in other situations like – taking large number targets, dealing with budgeting processes at work, deal pricing, etc., anything associated with money. I feel scared and lacked confidence in handling financial matters. These feelings manifested in the form of – getting into a debt trap, not being able to plan my finances objectively, not being able to spend money wisely, and spending money on anything that is not an absolute necessity. When I started to earn, I never made any investment decisions because I felt I was not good at it. I was afraid of making decisions. I trusted my father to make decisions without asking any questions. I started to evaluate the cause of this behavior through the lens of contamination. I realized how my father’s messages have influenced me and I’m carrying them from my childhood, which are no longer serving me now. The reason why I don’t spend money even if it’s absolutely necessary, and scared of money decisions is because of messages I have received from my father that “We don’t have enough”, and my Child delusion that I may run out of resources. My financial debt amplified the beliefs: “Indeed I don’t have enough”, “I may lose money with my investment decisions” and “I’m afraid of running out of resources.” I was not able to spend money on anything as these messages held me back. “The strategy against contamination— “decontamination”—involves making the boundaries of the Adult ego state more robust, so that decisions made by the Adult are not tainted, distorted, or cropped by either the Child or the Parent.” (F. Cornell, p. 20) With awareness of my contaminations, I decided to engage my Adult more by asking the following questions whenever I felt stuck about money. * What am I feeling now?, * What messages I’m hearing now? What do I believe? How do this help or limit me?, * Where have I learned this from?, * How could I challenge these beliefs?, I’m using above questions to decontaminate my scarcity mindset and fears associated with financial decisions. I am now aware of origin of my scarcity mindset, I’m trying to change it slowly by giving myself proofs like – “I have successfully paid off my debt”, “Resources will not run out overnight, I have saved enough for rainy day”, “I have received help during my financial crisis, so I’ll get some help in the worst case”. The concepts of ego states and contamination helped me to surface unconscious assumptions and assess whether they are appropriate in the here and now. This allows me to replace Parental messages with relevant facts and collect evidence to prove my fears from a Child state are not relevant today. This is strengthening my Adult ego state and I’m starting to trust myself more. Being in an Adult state to me means to overcome the fears that I’ve carried from my childhood and empower myself to face challenges with courage and take responsibility for my actions.
中文翻译
我对心理学的兴趣源于我寻求“为什么我是这样的我”的答案。当我被介绍到沟通分析（TA）时，我正在质疑我的身份、目的，并寻找真实的自我。我被TA吸引是因为其概念的简单性和在日常生活中的实际应用，激发了我深入探索的兴趣，促使我参加了TA 101课程。我觉得TA可以帮助我采取行动改变那些不再对我有益的行为。对我产生巨大影响的TA概念是自我状态。我认识到，我以为是成人的状态实际上是父母或儿童状态，这让我能够净化并越来越多地进入成人状态。在这篇文章中，我展示了如何通过系统的净化过程，利用我的TA培训，加强了我的成人自我状态。伯恩从现象学上定义自我状态为与给定主题相关的情感连贯系统，从操作上定义为行为模式的连贯集合，或从实用上定义为激励相关行为模式的情感系统（伯恩，1961年，第17页）。“成人功能是寻求与当前现实的连接，父母以父母形象出现，儿童包含童年残留物。”（F. Cornell，2016年，第4页），我开始在压力情境中检查我的思维并寻找污染。伯恩（1961年）定义污染为：“污染是一个自我状态的一部分标准化侵入另一个自我状态。”海（1992年）描述为“来自父母或儿童的材料‘泄漏’到成人自我状态”。污染可以是父母-成人污染，即一个人将父母意见视为成人事实（偏见）。（图1.1）在儿童-成人污染的情况下（图1.2），恐惧的过去经历被用来在此时此地行动（妄想）。在双重污染中（图1.3），一个人重播父母信息并用儿童信念同意它们，混淆两者为现实。现实观被扭曲，因为来自父母和儿童的内容被视为代表真理。我意识到我在处理金钱和财务相关领域有双重污染。当我换工作时，我在谈判薪水时感到不适，并接受了较低的加薪。我在其他情境中看到类似模式，如承担大量目标、处理工作中的预算流程、交易定价等，任何与金钱相关的事情。我感到害怕，在处理财务事务时缺乏信心。这些感受表现为陷入债务陷阱、无法客观规划财务、无法明智花钱、花钱在任何非绝对必需品上。当我开始赚钱时，我从未做出任何投资决策，因为我觉得我不擅长。我害怕做决定。我信任我父亲做决定而不问任何问题。我开始通过污染的视角评估这种行为的原因。我意识到我父亲的信息如何影响了我，我从童年就携带它们，现在不再对我有益。我即使绝对必要也不花钱、害怕金钱决策的原因是我从父亲那里收到的信息“我们不够”，以及我的儿童妄想我可能耗尽资源。我的财务债务放大了信念：“确实我不够”，“我可能在投资决策中亏钱”和“我害怕耗尽资源”。我无法花钱在任何事情上，因为这些信息阻碍了我。“对抗污染的策略——‘净化’——涉及使成人自我状态的边界更坚固，这样成人做出的决定不会被儿童或父母玷污、扭曲或裁剪。”（F. Cornell，第20页）意识到我的污染，我决定每当在金钱上感到卡住时，通过问以下问题更多地参与成人状态。* 我现在感觉如何？* 我现在听到什么信息？我相信什么？这如何帮助或限制我？* 我从哪里学到这个？* 我如何挑战这些信念？我使用以上问题来净化我的稀缺心态和与财务决策相关的恐惧。我现在意识到我的稀缺心态的起源，我试图通过给自己证据慢慢改变它，如“我已成功还清债务”、“资源不会一夜耗尽，我已为雨天存够”、“我在财务危机中得到帮助，所以最坏情况下我会得到一些帮助”。自我状态和污染的概念帮助我浮现无意识假设并评估它们在此时此地是否合适。这让我用相关事实替换父母信息，并收集证据证明我来自儿童状态的恐惧今天不相关。这加强了我的成人自我状态，我开始更信任自己。对我来说，处于成人状态意味着克服我从童年携带的恐惧，并赋予自己勇气面对挑战，为我的行动负责。
文章概要
本文作者Ashwini分享了她在沟通分析心理学中，通过识别和净化自我状态污染，特别是在金钱和投资决策方面，加强成人自我状态的个人旅程。她描述了从童年携带的父母信息（如“我们不够”）和儿童恐惧（如资源耗尽）如何导致双重污染，影响她的财务行为，如避免投资和债务问题。通过TA概念，她学会了问关键问题来净化这些污染，用现实证据挑战旧信念，从而增强自信和决策能力，最终在成人状态下更负责任地面对财务挑战。
高德明老师的评价
用12岁初中生可以听懂的语音来重复翻译的内容：这篇文章讲的是一个人如何用心理学方法处理金钱问题。她发现，小时候爸爸说的话让她觉得钱总是不够，这让她长大后害怕花钱和投资。通过学习一种叫沟通分析的心理工具，她学会了问自己一些问题，比如“我现在感觉怎么样？”和“这些想法从哪里来？”，来摆脱这些旧想法。现在，她更相信自己，能更好地管理钱和做投资决定。
TA沟通分析心理学理论评价：从沟通分析心理学角度看，本文生动展示了自我状态污染理论在个人成长中的应用。作者识别出双重污染，即父母状态的信息（如“我们不够”）和儿童状态的恐惧（如资源耗尽）侵入成人状态，导致财务决策失真。通过净化过程，她强化了成人自我状态的边界，用现实检验替代污染内容，体现了TA理论中成人状态作为连接当前现实的核心功能。这突显了TA在促进自我觉察和行为改变方面的实用价值。
在实践上可以应用的领域和可以解决人们的十个问题：在实践上，本文的应用领域包括个人财务管理、职业发展、投资决策、情绪调节、亲子沟通、教育辅导、心理咨询、团队管理、压力应对和自我成长。可以解决人们的十个问题：1. 克服投资决策中的恐惧和犹豫；2. 改善金钱管理中的客观规划能力；3. 减少债务陷阱和财务压力；4. 增强在薪资谈判中的自信；5. 处理工作预算和定价时的焦虑；6. 打破童年信息对消费习惯的限制；7. 提升面对财务危机时的应对能力；8. 加强自我信任和责任感；9. 优化亲子间关于金钱的沟通模式；10. 促进个人在挑战中的勇气和成长。